I GREW UP THE IN 50'S AND 60'S IN SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA.. I LOVED IT AND HAVE SO MANY GREAT MEMORIES. BUT ONE THING I DIDN'T APPRECIATE UNTIL MUCH LATER, WERE THE TABLE MANNERS MY MOTHER INSTILLED IN MY SISTER AND I. FOR EXAMPLE, NOT LEAVING THE TABLE UNTIL EVERYTHING WAS OFF YOUR PLATE. ( OTHERWISE IT WOULD BE ON YOUR BREAKFAST PLATE IN THE AM) ALWAYS ASKING TO BE EXCUSED FROM THE TABLE WHEN YOU ARE DONE. ALWAYS INCLUDE EVERYONE IN THE CONVERSATION OR KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. DINNERTIME WAS FAMILY TIME. OF WHICH WE EAT AT THE SAME TIME EVERY NIGHT. I KNOW WHAT YOUR THINKING...SHE WAS LUCKY TO HAVE A FAMILY TO SIT DOWN WITH.. OR IT WAS A SIGN OF THE TIMES..IT WAS THE 50'S . " FATHER KNOWS BEST".. "I LOVE LUCY".. "LASSIE" FOR GODS SAKE!!BUT BY THE TIME I TURNED 12 MY BRADY BUNCH LIFE CAME TO A SCREECHING HALT WHEN MY MOM AND DAD DIVORCED. NO MORE FAMILY DINNERS. RIGHT WHEN I WAS GETTING TO BE THE AGE WITH SO MANY QUESTIONS!! I HAD TO FIND MY ANSWERS ELSE WHERE. LETS NOT CONFUSE ANSWERS WITH TRUTHS!! THEN AS THINGS AROUND YOU CHANGE SO DO YOU.. MOM WENT TO WORK AND MY SISTER AND I BECAME THE FIRST LATCH KEY KIDS!!!LOL> NOT SO FUNNY. I THINK IT WAS THE START OF ,"THE FALL OF THE AMERICAN FAMILY", AT LEAST AS WE KNEW IT. HECK EVEN THE T.V. SHOWS WERE REFLECTING THE SIGN OF THE TIME. WHEN IT BECAME ACCEPTABLE FOR PARENTS TO SPLIT UP AND BOTH BE FORCE TO WORK BECAUSE DAD COULDN'T AFFORD TO SUPPORT 2 HOUSEHOLDS. THEN THE COURTS WENT "LEFT" AND DECIDED 50/ 50 ...WHICH WAS REALLY ONLY DECIDED ON AFTER IT BECAME ACCEPTABLE FOR WOMEN TO LEAVE THE HOME AND GO TO WORK.. YOU SEE WHERE I AM GOING HERE. ONCE YOU MAKE AN EXCEPTION IT BECOMES THE RULE. BUT ALL IN ALL EVERYONE WHO GETS MARRIED AND HAS A FAMILY ALWAYS WANTS THERE TO BE A.. FAMILY THIS AND FAMILY THAT, AND NO ONE PLANS ON GETTING DIVORCED, AND OUR INTENTIONS WERE GOOD. BUT WHAT DO WE TEACH OUR KIDS THEN. THAT YOU GET MARRIED SETTLE DOWN AND HOPE FOR THE BEST?? MAYBE WE OUGHT TO BE REALISTIC AND JUST HOPE FOR THE BEST!!!...LOL...
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